Songs in our book of life

I continue to write about how I’m getting through the grief of losing my husband. It’s been over eighteen months and the trek is still quite difficult. This is my latest installment. For earlier posts, check the blog archive on the right of the page. I bet my thoughts echo many of yours – those who have gone through this horrendous experience. My heart goes out to all of you.


My journey through hell……

I don’t remember when last I posted anything here but I’ve been trudging through hell since I lost my Beloved. I’ve written over 40 blog posts about this journey and writing about how I feel and what this horrible journey is like has been cathartic for me. I’ve been told that my writings about this may help others who are traveling this path. The newest entries are at the top but they begin in April of 2017, if any of you want to scroll down to there to begin or go to the right and click on the April 2017 date. Feel free to share your own thoughts in the comments, especially if you, too, have been traveling through this kind of hell.

My journey through grief

In April of 2017, I started writing blog posts about what I was feeling as my husband was fighting a severe diagnosis of pancreatic cancer. He had been fighting it for some time and I felt the need to write down my thoughts as we trudged down the road together. I continued to write after he passed away because writing became a compulsion, was cathartic and a way for me to scream without actually doing that. I posted those blog entries on Facebook and Twitter and found that they helped others who had gone through a similar experience. A year has just gone by since my Beloved passed away but I will continue to write about this since time doesn’t heal anything. It just teaches us how to live with the pain.

So, to those of you who might happen on this page and either have gone through what I did or know someone who has, perhaps you will find some comfort knowing you are not alone in what you feel, that I have echoed your own thoughts or you can share this with someone who needs to know they don’t walk down this road by themselves.

The newest posts are at the top so to begin the story, you’ll have to scroll down to the April 23, 2017 post entitled “Why I’ve Been Quiet.” Wishing you peace.

I chose this life

I have been writing blog posts about the terrible situation that invaded our lives. Cancer really sucks. My latest post is the first link below. The second link will take you to the many posts I’ve written about this beginning in April of 2017. To those of you who have suffered the terrible loss of a loved one, perhaps some of my words will sound familiar and help.

A bit of our love story……..

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A shattered life

My life has been shattered. Since April 23rd of this year I have written many posts about what has affected my family and me through the illness of my husband and his subsequent passing. The posts seemed to flow out of my head and heart almost like a compulsion. I’m walking down a terrible, complicated road as are so many others in like circumstances. The feedback I’ve received on these posts seem to echo others’ feelings who have gone through similar times. So, I’m posting the link to my blog posts with the hope that those of you who may be going down that road may find my thoughts mirroring yours and perhaps get some comfort in knowing you’re not alone.